Category: Dating and Relationships
It is so hard for me to write about this, but I am in great distress and not sure what to do. But after so many nice words that were shared, so many dreams that were told and so many plans that were made, he just disappeared. Said he felt down and couldn't tell me what happened, so I am left to wonder and beg for a response, any response possible, but there is just no response. Feel a great emotional pain as I write this and keep wondering how he is, but I should have known better by now. As soon as things start going well for me in a relationship, something stupid happens and then it is all over. Accept that this time I do not know what happened and maybe I would never find out. I have been dealing with this for 4 days now and it is becoming so unbarable, but I can't imagine what would happen if I strugle with this for a longer period of time. And if I never find out, I would probably spend months, years and even my whole life in suffering. I would never hate him, but I don't know how to help myself in this case. There is just no way of help until I find out what it is that is bugging him. I just keep praying that god could help me soon.
That is so sad, and I'm truly sorry.
I hope the best for you.
Bob
Thanks Bob. I heard back from him last night, so hopefully we can talk things through today. Just pray it would all go okay.
Wish you good luck and everything to go well.
Thanks so much. We chatted and talked and tried resolving things, but I learned a great lesson that I probably needed. Things are sometimes not the way they seem to be, when you think of and consider them the second time. But still, it was a great experience for me and I only hope for the best for this person. (Smile)
that's a great outlook to have; keep it up.
So he just up and left for four days without telling you anything? that's probably not a healthy relationship to begin with, and I'm glad you've figured that out.
yeh a good relationship must have keep their partners informed of their absence, you know. she may be awaiting for that clock to struck 8 for your arrival? or for your skype call? or for an ffr probably? hmmmm?
I was crying since I've lost one of my my fluffy wuffy pillows for two days. and I felt much happy and bounced up to the roof after finding it under my cot, you see.
Raaj.
Right, things are much clearer to me now, not just because of the absence, but because of other things too. I think I will have some crying to do in the next few days, but it wasn't meant to be, I guess. I just hope and wish the bes to him.
Maybe we can get together again, but I guess time will tell all. Just keep praying for me!
kk. keep updating. as my present temperature here by 5:38 am is, scattered clouds and 82F
Raaj.
Raaj, this poor girl is hurting. I don't think she gives a damn about your weather or your fluffy wuffy pillows.
Haha! He is just trying to chear me up by saying all else he can think of.
chearing you up? .... hmmmm.
Raaj
Only you know for sure.
Aww'ww, well, sometimes relationships just get fucked up for some unknown reason, and it's hard, so damned hard moving on, but that's just something we gotta do. And you are right, sometimes we think everything's ok, going great in the relationship, mean while the other partner is feeling something totally different. That's why communication is so importnat in any relationship! Don't think that it's you who messed up or don't think that it was your fault. These things just happen for some weird reason or another! And I'm glad you got at least some closure as to why he did what he did, at least he had the decency of speaking to you. Cause, you'll always wonder what you did wrong, or why it didn't work out, but, it's not something you did or said, things just happen! Good luck, and go have yourself a good cry and eat lots of chocolate! lol
Kia
You are right. Sometimes it is just no ones fault, but if it was meant for us to get together, I would still do it, until I am sure 100 percent where things go and why certain things happen.
Hey Adrijana, two weeks on, how are you feeling since? I think the problem is sometimes get hooked on a person, even in the virtual world and reality is so different. Are we talking about someone you have actually met in the flesh or were hoping to meet up with?
Hope all goes well with out otherwise, and keep your spirits up.
John
Thanks John. We never met and maybe we never would, so god just knows.
That is it for us. All gone forever, friendship and relationship, but I wish him all the best in life.
hey girl well stay strong and look at moving forward a positive and exciting thing! and I am sure you have people in this world who really care about you!
*hugs*
Sabrina
Doing my best. Thanks.
Keep on smiling, I know exactly how you feel. There have been relasionships that I have been in that were like that, but I kept on smiling and praying and things ended up ether working out or not. See you!
Deaven
Yes. I know. Thanks for the advice. These few months were hard like hell for me, but friends and work helped me greatly to get back to my old self again. Thanks all for the great support!
Sweetheart, he's probably not interested in you anymore. He's probably found someone else to pursue. I hate to be so brutally honest about it but i'm sorry; i'm not going to sugar coat it for u! But don't worry, there r other fish in the sea and one day, one of them will treat u like his queen! You'll be the only love in his eyes; just u wait and see!
hmm think she might have found somebody.
but she runs most of them off herself.
Aww, I am so very sorry to hear that. I just am so puzzled why there are people out there that can play with your emotions like that. I think that he obviously was very inmature and not ready to have a relationship seeing that he could do this sort of thing. Relationships are a very scary thing to get involved with. On the one hand they can be so wonderful, but on the other they can lead to heartache and pain. I think it would be so nice if there were a way that you could tell before hand whether or not you would get heartbroken. LOL, but unfortunatly there is no such thing.
I hope that he calls you back, just so you can tell him how much pain and suffering he caused you.
Again, I am very sorry and hope that you will be okay.
adrijana is a really cool girl. She will find the right one most definitely. She deserves a good guy as much as any girl. She's a really genuine neat person, and she will find that someone and then just laugh at her posts like this.
I am sorry you had to go through this experience, and I'm glad in reading some of these later posts that you are doing better. Just hang in and one day the right relationship will come along and as someone else said, communication is the most important thing in a relationship. Wishing good things for you in the future.
Hi Psychic Teacher,
It sounds like you've been through quite a hard time indeed. I agree with the others in that communication is key, and I'm glad you're feeling better than you were in your post.
Sending good thoughts to you.
For what it's worth I agree with everybody else. Don't give up.
"but she runs most of them off herself."? Does anyone find that statement a bit weird or is it just me? It's rather insulting in my opinion...
I know this person who had a similar break up like this. Only thing is she never heard from the guy for over a year or more. He stopped calling, stopped texting her back and stopped all contact with no explanation. She was so torn up. I could have cheerfully murdered him. But let's not go there today. lol It was an online relationship as well but he made multiple trips to see her and everything. They were together for over 3 years I think. A long solid time anyway. She was really lost for a long time when it happened. If guys need more space or whatever, why can't they just say so instead of being a bitch-assed coward and hiding in their little corner and acting like nothing went wrong... lol Excuse the rant. I still feel for this person...
Just because guys don't like your friend, doesn't mean guys don't like girls, or that they act in the manor you speak of.
What a fema-nazi
Blind people are so insecure.
I have to agree with Skyla and others. that's not at al a good thing
"Fema-Nazi"? Just for saying what any person who has been hurt or had a loved one hurt says? "Blind people are so insecure"? No, people who have been hurt in general tend toward the insecure. Yes, women are down on men who do this, but find a girl who has done it and most men will slam her too (mind you I'll help them). And, insecurity has little to do with blindness. I spend my life around the sighted, and believe me...They are just as insecure as any I've heard on here.
Exactly. It's not specifically limited to the blind.
Nobody said it was "specifically limited to the blind." But blind tend to be more babied, so they tend to be more insecure because of it. I went to one of those blind schools, so I would know.
And EVERYBODY has been hurt. I don't care who the hell you are, but spouting off that every guy or girl is evil because they tend to hurt you more than maybe others get hurt is just as evil.
Not everyone who is blind goes to a blind school, so, comparing all blind people on that basis is not a good representation. I agree, everyone has been hurt, but it is human instinct to blame the entire sex; whether right or wrong. It's called the battle of the sexes.
I don't know many guys who do that.
I do..."All women are sluts" "All women are bitches" ETC.
I've heard that as well. And I've known guys who thought it was not only ok but expected that they use their women as punching bags and sex slaves because of their beliefs. My fiance's x is one such person. Needless to say I was a little surprised when she asked me to marry her if only because after all she's been through in the last fifteen years I would think she would cringe at even the thought of marriage.
Exactly my point, but it doesn't just happen with guys who are abusive, it happens with guys who have been burned; especially multiple times. She asked you? LOL, I don't hear of that' to often. :) Congradulations!!! She really trusts you.
i can agree. smiles. move on and someone will come. smiles. they will treet you like a queen.
Hmmm, you must not know very many men poster 40. I have lots of guy friends, and believe you me, the rants I hear on a weekly basis.... LOL. So what you went to a blind school. Who cares. Not every blind person goes to a "blind" school. Your posts don't make a lot of sense, but I guess maybe the blind school had something to do with it? I love blind people who make fun of others when they themselves have the same problem. ROFL! Anyway, to the original poster, it seems like you are doing better which is good. I'm glad for you.
I do have more sighted friends than blind friends. and, many of them are female too. but while taking a decision about my partner, I surely prefer to have a blind for that.
It's not that I'm against sighted girls but I do have more likings and trust upon blind girls. even though I know there are many many blind meanies and freaky and even cheaters around. I feel that is everywhere.
Raaj.